ANNOYING!!!!

Ever have a whole conversation with someone to five minutes later realize they didn't hear a word you sad? Doesn't it make you feel about as small as an ant? Ever wonder if technology is taking over and sucking all the attention from everything else that matters? Ever look around and wonder what happened to common respect and courtesy?

I read something in a blog the other day and it was about being married and the little things that annoy us with our spouse. Are those little annoyances worth the negative thoughts that travel through our head? Do we need to just change our mind about certain things and realize that they just aren't that bad and that maybe the other person just can't that quickly change them for us. Sometimes people don't do things just to annoy us it's just something they do...make sense? I know I know I actually hated reading that! And yet what truth and truth I shout quite often. EVERYTHING ISN'T ABOUT ME!!! I could make a very long list of annoyances about Steve and I'm 100% sure he could do the same about me and yet if I dwell on those things I can quickly get sucked into the negative mind set and I can no longer even see why I love him in the first place, all the good things, and those things out way the bad....I think ;). See if I sit and go over all my flaws and make that same list I sometimes can make with others I quickly fall off that pedestal I can put myself on.

-I'm controlling
-I'm loud
-I bite my finger nails if I'm bored
-love a debate, I'm a good arguer
-I'm stubborn
-I ALWAYS get the last word
-I 'parent' everyone
-I believe I'm right.....
-I'm demanding
-I bite the inside of my mouth when I'm thinking
-I tap my legs when I'm anxious
-I hate confined, tight areas where other people have to touch me
-You will never want me as a passenger in your car cause I freak out more then I don't
and this list could go a mile long if you ask those close to me about my annoyances.


See, My hubby, the love of my life since I was 17 years old. Yes from the first time I talked to him and he gave me a ride in his "cool car" I knew I would marry him and I fell hard and fast! He was and still is my bad boy! And when I look at him I still see that 21 year old boy I fell in love with. My list of annoyances I write down in my head for him can grow and grow from day to day, especially in layoff season...now! But then someone kicks that pedestal out from under me and when I'm sitting next to him and realize we're on the same human, we all make mistakes, level I see all the good we both have. I also quickly realize how my flaws can cause flaws in him and vice versa. Funny how that one works. We all have our things and we can't expect others to change themselves for us but we can deftly change ourselves for them. I was barking out commands this morning as I do, it's really completely normal here. As sad as it may seem I'm the in charge person. Don't get me wrong, I firmly believe the man is the head of the house and I fully respect my husband and know that God has given him that role. But on a day to day basis I tend to control how our days go and how we do things and its just how our day flows. As I was doing this this morning though I quickly realized that Steve heard nothing I said and then I found myself getting very frustrated. This really isn't abnormal. Steve quickly gets caught up in tv or his device and doesn't even realize I'm talking or even in the room. SO I kick him!!! Okay maybe not but I think about it and commit the act in my head! Haha!! I know Steve doesn't do this ignoring thing on purpose, he doesn't even realize he does it, and I know he truly loves me and does think I'm important and doesn't wanna make me feel any less then that. I wish it was easier for people to change the little disrespectful, annoying things but it's not. So lets change how we react to them. Lets love others and those flows.

***UGH!!!! Struggling with this blog as my husband is walking past me and yelling out my flaws so my above list can apparently be more accurate.

So this morning on this beautiful morning I encourage you to remember that you love others and while we can get annoyed and hurt, feel disrespected, mistreated, etc we have probably done the same thing to another. Love, embrace differences, embrace those annoying flaws cause we know positive ones come with them, be kind, remember we're human too. Remember, someday the ones we love and the ones with those crazy, annoying flaws will be gone and we'll probably miss them and their flaws.