7 1\2 Years. That's how long it took before God blessed us with our precious little miracle. Words cannot even express how my heart feels every single time I think about the miracle of Trents birth. I'm tearing up just thinking about him. I love him more then anything and I can't imagine life without him. I am SO truly blessed to have him in my life and I just can't believe God entrusted him to me.
Here's a bit of our journey in become the Rice Family of 3 and counting
Steve and dated 3 years before getting married and while going through our premarital counseling I was asked if I new about Steve's medical issues and that there's a possibility that he can't have children and how I felt about that. At the time I was just SO in love that all I cared about was getting married and that no one had 100% told him that he was sterile, so hey we still had a chance! Anyways a year or 2 or maybe even 3 into our marriage we found out that yes Steve was sterile and that he was 99% incapable of helping in the baby making process, so to speak. Yes, there was procedures that could be done to see if there was a blockage and from there we could take eggs from me and sorta make a baby and then implant me. BUT holy $$$. I'm not rich and to think about saving money up forever to try that way and the pain that both of us physically would have to endure did not sound fun. Plus the percentage of it even working was ridiculously low! No thanks! So we started checking out our other options. Sperm donors...sorta weird. After looking into it quite a bit we were just to weirded out about me having a baby with another guy...yep that's how we viewed it and that's just weird!
I sit here and while writing this it sorta make me upset to think about how many people have no clue what its like to struggle to get pregnant or to just have a family. Adopt, foster. When I was in high school half my friends were pregnant our senior year or right after graduation. It's like for some unknown reason some woman have the gift of just "popping" them out and others just don't and its heart breaking. Whats really heart breaking is that some woman just have no clue and they never will. I look around and I see tons of families just totally disregarding there family, their children, and here I sit and I would just love to love on a child. But God put this on me, he knew I could handle this and he knew I was strong enough for this. And while I question it at times I'm thankful that he chose me as someone he saw fit to endure this to be blessed in a different way.
And our journey continued. Seems so long ago and the information has sorta slipped my mind but we heard of NightLight Christian Adoption from Dr. Dobson of Focus on the Family, we had written him a letter just seeking advice and he lead us to them.
I know how the story ends, but I can't wait till you continue the story. You should write a book. You are a very spiritual writer and let everyone one know how it was for You & Steve. Life itself is hard, but let alone make a tough decision like You & Steve had to make. Some people have NO clue what You's went through. But we all are so blessed that You's chose this way, cause we get to spoil your little man. Love Ya Bunches Trent, you too Steve & Christy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteYour too sweet. No books in my future, except maybe one I put these few stories in for Trent, to help him understand his adoption story.I defly would say A LOT of people have no clue what we went through and what a lot of people are going through these days with fertility issues. Thanks for following along, glad you enjoy =)
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad you are writing about your journey with infertility. Unfortunately it's usually labeled as a "taboo" topic of conversation, and I think it's wonderful that you are shedding some light on what a couple goes through.
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